I’m Alright Jack ! This Selfish world we live in.

 Lately I have noticed that in among the people being kind and thoughtful, the helpful people and the ones who care, there are some incredibly selfish and thoughtless individuals. This seems to manifest itself in several ways and these are just some of the misdemeanours I have noticed. 

“ I want to park my car, I don’t want to pay, I don’t want to follow the rules, I shall park where I like.”

“ I want to go shopping, I don’t want to wait, I am more important than everyone else therefore I shall push to the front of the queue.”

“ I haven’t got much work to do so I will make myself look busy doing tasks that don’t need doing. Why would I help the rest of the team; I’m alright Jack!”

“I have a right to get to the shelves before you even though you were already there; I shall push past you and get what I want. My time is far more valuable than yours.”

Unbelievably I have seen all of these things happen in the last couple of months. A sense of entitlement and an incredible delusion that they are the important people, make for some nasty characters.

I know it is not that common to be so self centred that you truly believe the world revolves around you, but it is definitely on the increase. I think too much reality TV is making people think that they do not have to work for a living and that they can just sail through life on minimum effort and maximum return. I am sure that is not what the programmes intend people to think but there are certain individuals who do.

Instagram is a fabulous platform but so many people want to be influencers or social media stars and that is not sustainable for most people. If we have too many influencers who will they be influencing? They can hardly spend all day trying to out influence the next person. 

The “be kind” campaign clearly worked for some people and, luckily they are a lot of lovely people around but I think there are a lot of people who need to start thinking about the people around them and how a lifetime of being selfish and arrogant will impact them. You cannot sustain a  lifetime of being miserable, mean and moody; so smile and laugh and be nice to other people. Life is short and should be as nice as you can make it. 

Before anyone tells me that there are maybe reasons why the grumpy brigade are as they are, I do understand that. But you have to remember that ruining someone else’s day does not improve your own and you may find you get a lot more out of being kind and thoughtful.

Eat Less, Move More.......My Candid Weight Loss Diary..... holiday eating and reversing the gain.

What can I say....all you can eat breakfasts are not good for me; they are tasty but not healthy. I went away with family for 4 days and hotel living was rather nice; not having to cook, wash up, clean etc for a few days was lovely. Sadly eating out has taken it's toll on my weight loss. It is no longer weight loss but weight gain. It was unfortunate timing that I came back a day before weigh day but it just reinforced that I need to eat less.

I may have gone to the Cadbury outlet shop while I was away but we shall never speak of this again. 🙊

                

Date	Weight	Notes	Total loss so far
10th  July 2021	176 pounds  (79.832 kg)
17th July 2021	174 pounds (78.925 Kg)	2 pounds lost
24th July 2021	174 pounds (78.925 kg)	No change
1st August 2021	173 pounds (78.471kg)	1 pound lost	3 pounds (1.36kg)
1st September 2021	173 pounds (78.471kg	No change
1st October 2021	178 pounds (80.7394)	Gained 5 pounds	OOPS

I have decided that instead of sitting here being miserable and negative about the weight gain, I shall chalk it up to a good holiday and move on.  I need to be proactive and I need to consider how I can boost the weight loss. 

The first thing is clearly to eat less and stick to the healthy foods. I know exactly what to eat and what not to eat but I am not always as sensible as I should be. It is hard to say no to cake and biscuits and things that taste delicious. 

Knowing that I shouldn't be eating things doesn't make it any easier. I end up with a weird obsession that I am being deprived and think about what will I do if it's 11pm and I don't have that thing I am craving. To be brutally honest I can damn well go without; I won't die without a Kit Kat or a muffin or whatever else I feel like at the time. Chances are that whatever I buy will be gone way before I would be likely to have an actual craving.

I also get very good at sneaking around buying and eating things secretly. This is psychologically so bad for me or anyone, to be honest. I have decided that if I want something I will eat it. As an adult I am old enough and ugly enough to make choices. 

As well as going back to the healthy foods I will be getting an exercise bike that is suitable to use at home. I was worried about making too much noise with exercise equipment as I live in a flat, but this one is almost silent. It is very generously being given to me so I will need to make the most of having it.

My worst fault with overeating is telling myself I will have a treat before giving up sugar, I can do this multiple days in a row. The day I  give up sugar again has become as mythical as a sparkly, talking unicorn. I do lurch between the idea that giving up sugar totally is the way to go and the other option is to have occasional treats. I think a brain transplant would help.

So I clearly know what to do but seem to be incapable of doing it. Now is the time to be tough on myself. I don't want to be the fat one wherever I go; I want to be the size 12 with fabulous clothes that I was in 2018.

I apologise for sounding like a stuck record. When I weigh myself on the 1st November I will have positive news to report.